I stumbled across this study, and can't help but cringe. Marriage seems to be the topic of my friends and family lately concerning me and my boyfriend of two years. These 10 myths are a huge part of why I am not married to him, he thinks most of these myths are true. I think I like Joe Berger's views better!
Top 10 Myths That Can Wreck A Marriage!
By (Joe Berger, from Cornell Univ. study)
Myth 1: "Husbands and wives should be best friends." Best friends are almost always of the same sex. No matter how close a married couple is, men relate best to men, and women get along best with other women.
Myth 2: "Marriage can fulfill all your dreams." Not always. People should not marry for the sake of marriage itself because the relationship may lack joy, kindness, and love--leaving them miserable.
Myth 3: "Husbands and wives should do everything together." It's often best for mates to pursue their own interests. There's no reason why a husband should be made to get to the ballet or a wife should be forced to watch football.
Myth 4: "Good husbands do household repairs." Good wives do laundry. Not necessarily. Rather than fight over who should do certain chores, sometimes it's best for one mate to break the traditional sexual barrier and do his or her mate's job.
Myth 5: "Having a child will improve a bad marriage." No it won't. All the hard work of caring for the child will further weaken the marriage. A child will strengthen a marriage only if it's already a good relationship.
Myth 6: "Marriage should be a 50-50 partnership." Mates shouldn't keep score. Some people will naturally give more than others in a marriage, and worry over giving too much or too little can take love out of the relationship.
Myth 7: "Exciting romantic love makes a good marriage." Passionate love burns out very quickly--but warm, affectionate married love will bring you lasting security and comfort.
Myth 8: "An unhappy marriage is better than broken home." Children of a miserable couple often say they'd prefer the relative peace and quiet that follows a divorce. If a couple is unhappy, they shouldn't stay together just "for the children's sake."
Myth 9: "Competition between spouses adds sparkle to a marriage." Competition often leads to open hostility.
Myth 10: "Don't have sex when you're angry." Making love while you're angry can help clear the air.
1 comment:
Those are lame myths....I especially detest the "staying together for the children" one, and I'm sure you'd agree, but I remember praying that my parents would get divorced, it just was that bad to be around them when they hated eachother....they are honestly much more civil to eachother now.
And no one should ever reproduce because they think it would help their marriage.
I think marriage is wonderful, but I'd go crazy if I couldn't send my hubby away with "the boys" occasionally.
You'll know when you're ready to make the jump Sam. Don't let anyone push you into it though ;)
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